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Saturday, 6 July 2013
BEING THE LADIES MAN
In trying to be the man women want,guys have had to go the extra mile of pretending to be who and sometimes what they are not just to get approval and admiration and many times they often come off short and left devastated when everything eventually falls apart. Age has nothing to do with maturity in a relationship however,its important to point out that women aren't very attracted to little boys. most guys have some growing up to do in order to be the kind of guy that women are naturally attracted to by putting away the inner little boy and maturing into the masculine man that they ought to be. This has nothing to do with age or body size.
The first step to success here is learning to attract Women by being yourself. By accepting yourself for who you are and what you stand for you will always show forth a certain amount of confidence and women find this quality very attractive in a guy. The problem is a lot of guys don't know what they stand for and are often covered in the shadows of other guys who might not even be as nice to these women as themselves. Don't try to be anybody else or think that you don't have anything to make a woman attracted to you as a guy because then you would have succeed in pushing her away as no woman wants a guy who thinks low of himself. This doesn't mean you have to be arrogant or cocky. It just means you know what you want and how to get it and you are not ready to settle for less than the best.
Secondly,you must understand that women like men who can take charge. She expects you to take charge. Guys who date older women often try to follow the woman who doesn't want to lead mostly because she might be richer and more exposed to the world, and when she doesn't lead, he tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seeks approval. This puts him at a disadvantage because even though she may resist him taking charge all the times at first, but she’ll love him for it in the end. Be personally responsible for yourself,your thoughts and your situations by not playing the victim in life. Make your own choices and never give anyone the power to take your happiness.
Younger men who date older women mostly give their powers away to get approval from these women or to get on her good side but even though it sounds like the right thing to do,it never works. Why else do you think women are often powerfully attracted to guys who are tagged "world class scumbags" by nice guys? The fact is that a woman doesn't really find a guy attractive when he constantly needs her to need him. Do not feel left out when she needs to do something by herself and cultivate the habit of doing things without her. Don't feel jealous when she enjoys the things she does alone without you and learn to enjoy the things you do without her. In other words,learn to create room for both of you to spend time alone without each other. By doing all of these things you will constantly grow yourself into the real manhood and not just a little boy stuck in a mans body.
Sunday, 16 June 2013
SEXY AND THE OLDER WOMAN
Considering the misconception about women’s sexuality and desirability after a “certain age," which has been propagated in the minds of millions of men around the world through advertising there is the wrongful thinking that sexy can only be determined by youthfulness and older women aren't thought to be "sexy" in today's world.
The myth that women don’t need sex as they get older is one that has been deeply instilled in the minds of many and therefore makes it very important that we address this issue. The fact that a woman is over 40 doesn't mean that she needs sex any less than other things that brings joy, satisfaction and better emotional and physical health. Sex is an important physical exercise that helps get blood flowing through the pumping of the heart, bringing nutrients to all the other parts of the body and also helping to eliminates waste.
Engaging in vigorous physical exercises like sexual activities regularly may help burn those extra pounds and makes the bodies of older women "firmer". This is not to say that older women are not suppose to enjoy sex because enjoying sex isn't about how you look, but how you feel. The idea that being sexy means one has to be thin and young is only a misconception that has been sold through advertising for years. However,it is beneficial to human health to engage in regular physical exercise not necessarily to feel sexy but to stay healthy.Many times,a lot of women in their 40's may feel uncomfortable with their skin and wish they were half their age,but the truth is simple and that is a firm body isn't all that really defines sexiness. Humor,compassion and experience have greater roles to play and an older woman knows what she wants in bed which men actually attribute to being sexy.
The changes in a woman's body when she enters premenopause doesn't make it less sexual. women in their 40's will likely experience irregular periods, mood changes and lack of vaginal lubrication which will affect their sex life. But the body doesn't stop being sexual as a result of these changes. For guys who lack such knowledge about a woman's anatomy they are likely going to have bigger problems with their partners with when these changes occur. But these are normal changes that can be handles with understanding and experimentation because older women often have higher sex drives than the younger ones.
Tuesday, 11 June 2013
SIMPLE RULES TO CREATE FUN AND INTIMACY WITH A WOMAN
Every woman loves spending time alone with her man. Although sometimes both partners may get so busy that they neglect their relationship chasing money and other accomplishments and as a result may not have enough time for each other. A man must understand the need to take out time to be alone with his woman. Spend a whole day to Watch a movie, give her a back massage, snuggle and be intimate. Learn to put other thoughts aside and focus completely on your woman. This helps in rebuilding lost connections, which is really what we all desire in our lives. It is important to schedule a bit of alone-time with your woman regularly.
Real men know the value of putting the needs of their partners above and ahead of theirs after all they say love is selfless and making your woman's happiness a priority gives her the confidence that you care about her very much.However,this doesn't mean that you have to be a wuss or become spineless,on the contrary it just means that you are willing to bend for her sometimes even when she least expect you to. Learn to listen to her and be her best friend and confidant even when you aren't interested in what she is talking about. Ignoring her especially when you are with friends will give a wrong signal that she is not important to you as much as your friends.
We all know that every woman likes romance and deep down every woman has a romance fairy tale where she is the star so learn to be romantic. Women wants guys with a sense of romance that can make them feel special. Tell your woman how lucky you are that you found her. Tell her that from the moment you first saw her, you knew she was special. This is a great way to be romantic. Write her an old fashioned letter and express your love and affection for her. Hold her hand at the movies or when you're walking. Get her something just because.Small things like a magazine you know she likes, her favorite candy or a chocolate bar will go a long way to show her you think about her with deep affection.Being romantic is all about taking what you know about her and making them mean much to you.Remember what she likes to eat and cook it for her Or remember what songs make her want to dance, laugh, and cry, and make a mix for her.
Most importantly,you must understand that being intimate is not all about sex for a woman. Guys have a much different sexual drive than women. For women, it's not about the sex itself, but rather about the intimacy or closeness that she shares with you. If she thinks that all you want from her is sex, she's probably not going to give it to you. If she believes that she's all you want, then eventually she'll give all of herself to you.
Monday, 10 June 2013
MALE CONFIDENCE AND HOW TO TAKE CHARGE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Many guys who date older women often find it hard to be in control as "men". A lot of guys think because these women most times are more successful and have more experience in life,that automatically makes the women the head and they continually seek approval before taking actions of any kind. However,what these guys fail to understand is that women no matter how rich and powerful they are in their social and corporate circle, when it comes to personal issues of love, relationship,and dating,women are not looking for "boys" but men who can take charge.
Taking charge as a man with an older woman has nothing to do with age but maturity of the mind. Women generally,like men who are bold and confident enough to do and make them do things they never imagined. There are a lot of mistakes guys make with older women such as asking a woman if you can kiss her? This only makes you appear as a boy and takes away the magic in a kiss. instead of asking if you can kiss a woman,the better thing to do is to study her to know if she is sexually attracted to you and then reach out and give her a kiss.
Some guys develop cold feet when asking a woman out on a date and when they finally get the courage to make that move,their approach although may sound polite but they get turned down eventually. Asking a woman if you can take her out sometimes for example might sound to guys like a great way to hit on a woman but women do not want you to ask for their permission to hit on them. They enjoy it and crave to be with men that has got it together and know how to take control. Talk to her about a great place you know and confidently tell her you should hang out together. This will help create excitement if you can paint a great picture and fill her mind with beautiful fantasies and she will be glad to give you her number. Also, keep in mind that women like men who have laid out plans and directions and not guys who do not know what they want to do and how they intend to go about it,so after you have her number and you intend to hang out for the evening,always make sure you have a back-up plan if everything goes well and the sparks are sent flying in the air. Asking a woman what she wants to do after the evening is a buzz kill. Take charge and lead the way and if she is attracted to you already then she will follow you to the end of the earth.
Women find men more attractive when they sense you have a high level of self confidence and if she is hanging out late with you or talking to you on the phone late into the night then know that she really likes you and asking her to confirm if she likes you will only portray you in the wrong light as lacking confidence. This is the same thing as bragging about your work accomplishment or sexual prowess. Women do not find men who try too hard to impress them attractive and often end up dating the guys who do not pay them as much attention as you do by boasting.
Finally,always maintain a deep character when dating a woman and get her to try to get you out from your shells. This means you must let her discover your personality cause the more time she invest trying to know you the deeper she falls for you. Telling her everything about your history makes it uninteresting for her and puts you at a disadvantage. Talking less,listening more is the key.
Friday, 7 June 2013
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEXTING
As the world changes with modern technology now playing important roles in our daily lives, dating and relationships have also been greatly influenced by the discovery of the internet and most recently smart phones. Modes of communication with people are fast changing and so is the way we flirt. One of the recent and modern development in communication is sending text messages and emails. This article will try to look at a trend in flirting called "As the world changes with modern technology now playing important roles in our daily lives, dating and relationships have also been greatly influenced by the discovery of the internet and most recently smart phones. Modes of communication with people are fast changing and so is the way we flirt. One of the recent and modern development in communication is sending text messages and emails. This article will try to look at a trend in flirting called "SEXTING" which is basically the sending of erotic pictures or statements via emails or text messages.
According to Lindsay Goto,"Surveys have shown that women are more likely to sext than males. Some surveys list the numbers as high as 60% for women who sext while males tend to be closer to 50%. Whether it is because males feel like they have more to prove in terms of how they perform even in sexting and it makes them uncomfortable or just because women like reading their sex rather than seeing it, women love to sex with an abandon".
Most guys still have questions such as, “Should I Send Her A sext? When can i send a sext? And What Do I Say?
The benefit of sexting is that it allows both partners to have an intimate experience even if they are far apart. But for sexting to happen effectively you must have had a previous conversation about sex or you are already having sex with the woman. You can not just do it with a total stranger or someone who doesn't feel sexually attracted to you. Now,what most guys do not realize is that women in general love men who know how to tease seductive without revealing everything in one swipe. Keep it simple and fun filled,baiting her and being subliminal with your messages. While some women want to hear a lot of dirty talk others just prefer to be teased and intrigued by the reference you make about sex without actually telling them you want to have sex with them. Women always need to be warmed up before they begin to boil unlike the men who would be happy to receive a sext saying,"Last night was fucking great. I really wanted to bang you again tonight". Learn to tease her like a lady and warm her up.
Talk about the experience you had with her,how great the conversation was and then bait her to see if she will run with it. Sexting is the best form of foreplay in our new technological world. Women get more sexually aroused before a date by men who know how to sext. The key is not to go kinky first and learn to follow the signals that your partner is giving rather than focusing on your own fantasies.
" which is basically the sending of erotic pictures or statements via emails or text messages.
According to Lindsay Goto,"Surveys have shown that women are more likely to sext than males. Some surveys list the numbers as high as 60% for women who sext while males tend to be closer to 50%. Whether it is because males feel like they have more to prove in terms of how they perform even in sexting and it makes them uncomfortable or just because women like reading their sex rather than seeing it, women love to sex with an abandon".
Most guys still have questions such as, “Should I Send Her A sext? When can i send a sext? And What Do I Say?
The benefit of sexting is that it allows both partners to have an intimate experience even if they are far apart. But for sexting to happen effectively you must have had a previous conversation about sex or you are already having sex with the woman. You can not just do it with a total stranger or someone who doesn't feel sexually attracted to you. Now,what most guys do not realize is that women in general love men who know how to tease seductive without revealing everything in one swipe. Keep it simple and fun filled,baiting her and being subliminal with your messages. While some women want to hear a lot of dirty talk others just prefer to be teased and intrigued by the reference you make about sex without actually telling them you want to have sex with them. Women always need to be warmed up before they begin to boil unlike the men who would be happy to receive a sext saying,"Last night was fucking great. I really wanted to bang you again tonight". Learn to tease her like a lady and warm her up.
Talk about the experience you had with her,how great the conversation was and then bait her to see if she will run with it. Sexting is the best form of foreplay in our new technological world. Women get more sexually aroused before a date by men who know how to sext. The key is not to go kinky first and learn to follow the signals that your partner is giving rather than focusing on your own fantasies.
TRICKS TO DATE A RICHER WOMAN
How can I date someone who is making more money than me? This the very question that most young men worry about too often especially in a situation where they would never admit the truth for fear of loosing their target (miss moneybags). Well,the smart guys never worry about this because they know the rules of engagement. This article will help you keep up in the race without feeling outgunned even though you already know the truth.
First,whatever you do,never lie about your financial status to a richer woman but do not admit you are broke either. The secret is to keep a mysterious persona. There are over a million ways to make any woman happy without spending your money if you actually have any. A richer woman is not going to need you to support her financially or buy her a pretty dress either so you don't have to worry about spending. Rather,focus your energy on creating beautiful experiences that she couldn't buy with her money. The truth is as a rich woman she can buy herself so many nice things and there are probably so many guys who will be willing to give her expensive gifts without putting time and effort into creating that magic in the moment that will melt her heart.
It is very important that you keep up a good appearance always. The idea is to use what you have to your advantage and since you don't need to have a million dollars in your bank account to work out around your home then you can actually impress her with a toned body as clothes will look better on you even if they aren't expensive designer suits. Also,dressing in a color like white makes you seem richer than you truly are on paper. Find out where important people hang out such as an exclusive fitness center or the country club and find a way to get in there. Remember,the idea is to put the thought in her head that you are an important person even if you are not. So,hanging out where important people hang out will help drive the impression even if you don't say a word.
Once you have the woman's attention then you can walk up to her with confidence and introduce yourself. Make small talks and try to find out what she likes and always pay attention to every little detail. if you work as an "office assistant" to the director of a company for instance,you might want to make your position sound prestigious a little by calling it "executive assistant" and if you happen to be a guy without a job then it is helpful if you have a career of your own. Saying you are a freelance photographer or journalist or studying to be one makes you sound ambitious and women love men that are driven and ambitious. Even if you are broke now, they want to be certain that investing their attention in you will not become futile in the end. Learn to talk to her in a way others don't by never sucking up to her because of her wealth. Treat her like you would treat any other person after all she is flesh and blood and wants to feel like one otherwise,you will lose her attention by becoming intimidated by her fat wallet.
The secret for dating richer women is to actually date them and this is where most guys have troubles because then they think they have to spend money which they mostly never have to impress these women but the truth is you don't have to take her to the finest restaurants to win her heart. Take her to places that are free such as the park,a walk on the beach or even a home made candlelit dinner would spark the magic. Its all about giving her an experience which others will not and making her feel special too. Help her to feel relaxed in your company by making her laugh and have fun and you will slowly warm your way into her heart.
Finally,whatever you do,never forget to rock her world in the bedroom.
Thursday, 6 June 2013
HELPING YOUR WOMAN BUILD HER SEXUAL SELF ESTEEM
The idea that a woman can sometimes lack sexual self esteem is one that comes as a surprise to many men especially because most of these women have real sexual appealing looks with the way they dress,the shapes of their bodies and even their charisma. During sex for instance,many women find themselves sometimes criticizing their every move and feeling they may not be on their A-game. This could lead to a lose-lose situation for both parties because when a woman doesn't feel pleasure from having sex it weighs down on the mans self esteem and ego which is why you need to know how to get your woman back into the game by learning to boost her self esteem.
Sexy is a state of mind.If a woman, does not like herself inside and out, it is very difficult for her to share herself freely and fully with her man and this could create a vacuum in their sex life. Therefore,the more educated about a womans body you are as a man the more you are able to get her back in the game when you sense a disconnect. Women reach their sexual peak later in life than men,for many women, it can take years to figure out not only what feels good, but also to build up the confidence to communicate their desires with their partners. Most women still do not feel comfortable with their genitals and do not feel like their vulvas are their most attractive feature this is why her man must let her know how much he totally worship her body, the way she taste, smell and move, and chances are that she will start to loosen up and get out of her head and back into her body (and her sexual self-esteem will rise, too)making her more comfortable.
Also patience is key for guys to help their partners overcome low sexual self esteem and this is because even though it takes the average man about three minutes to have an orgasm,women on the other hand need about twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to have theirs. A situation where a woman feels pressured to have an orgasm can be much of a buzz kill during sexual intercourse. The more relaxed women feel during love making the better they function because its really about the state of the mind and just because she isn't having an orgasm yet doesn't mean she's not actually having a great time.The sexuality of a woman is product of her mindset and Having healthy, positive and productive thoughts, core beliefs, feelings, and attitudes helps in building a solid sexy foundation for her to thrive. In most cases,women who lack sexual self esteem have been programmed by society and their parents especially their mothers to believe that women are not to be sexually active and because their minds have been fed with such orientation for a long period it becomes very difficult sometimes to get them to break off even when they are married.
The importance and benefits of helping your woman build her sexual self esteem can not be underplayed because it will help create more intimacy and a stronger bond in your relationship apart from the pleasurable benefits that you will both achieve which will also bring joy and satisfaction in other areas of your lives.
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