DATING OLDER WOMEN-RELATIONSHIP OR CAREER?

In today world,there is a very big misconception about the relationship between a gigolo and an older woman. most peoples definition of such relationship or better still,what they think about the gigolo is, a young man who seeks older women to have sex with in exchange for money.the oxford advanced learner's dictionary defines a gigolo as "a man who is paid to be the 'lover'of an older woman,usually one who is rich". Such narrow definition as this one has led many to believe that there are no feelings attached in such relationships and all what matters is that sex is exchanged for money.However,if that is the case then such can only be described as prostitution which is defined in the oxford advanced learner's dictionary as the work of a prostitute (a person who has sex for money). This definition however contradict that of a gigolo since the gigolo according to the same dictionary is paid to be the 'lover' of an older woman who is rich.

What then is the difference between a prostitute and a gigolo?

As I have pointed out in details, a prostitute is a person who has sex for money while a gigolo is a young man who is paid to be the 'lover' of an older woman therefore,it is safe to say that there are tendencies of feelings and emotions getting involved in such relationship seeing that the word 'lover' is derived from the word 'love' which according to the same oxford dictionary is defined as "a strong feeling of affection for somebody that you are sexually attracted to".This makes it  right to say that a gigolo is not a prostitute because prostitutes don't have such affections and emotions for their clients.

Having made these distinctions,i feel the need to correct the impression that most young men have about older women who date younger men.so many write me asking to be introduced to a "sugar mamma  and the first impression they give me is,"this is a business transaction and i have the goods to sell to the women",well,to an extent i agree that it is acceptable to market yourself as a brand or a product,everyone is allowed to sell but are you selling the right product?how is your marketing strategy?are your products acceptable?

Relationship between a gigolo and an older woman is just like any other relationship between a man and a woman in spite of the age differences that might be involved.these women must find you not just attractive physically but also,you must have the intelligence to match her years and level of experience in life.older women like the younger ones are human beings and they need to feel wanted and loved and appreciated for who they are not because of what they possess in material things.You must understand that its a 'relationship' and there has to be compatibility. Yes, you have to understand that her friends will be different from yours and her goals in life too,that's why you must ask yourself if you are able to match her life goals and expectations?how confident are you?these are very big factors that you must also consider when you are aspiring to get into a relationship with an older woman especially if you live in a country where there is such stiff opposition from friends and family to such relationships.

As a young man who desires a relationship with an older woman you should understand that being a gigolo is not a job just like being a gay or a cougar is not a job. After all you don't get to receive a monthly paycheck or even pay taxes.You might get financial assistance and gifts from your lover but that's a different thing entirely.It is unwise to make your relationship with an older woman a job. Try to find something to do to earn money however little and buy her things as well. It's a different thing if she is helping you build a career than you making her your career.

In conclusion,here are a few questions you must also ask yourself before you decide if you want to be a gigolo:
1. Do you like older women?
2. Are you able to handle yourself in a mature way?
3. Can you be flexible and open to new experiences?
4.Why do you prefer older women?

For older women who date younger men the benefits of such relationship for them is well spelled out.these women are certain with what they seek from such relationships and it varies from one woman to another so you might as well get your priorities lined up before going into a relationship with an older woman.

ATTRACTING THE OLDER WOMAN;THE SMOOTH GIGOLO....

Have you ever been rejected by an older woman?Do you sometimes wonder why the other guys seem to be having it easy dating older women while you have repeatedly been put down in your advances?

This post is mean't for all the guys who have tried dating older women and failed,you will agree with me if you ever got the chance that it is not the same as dating a girl the same age as you.mainly because the older woman unlike their younger counterparts have much more experiences in dating.older women however,are not as hard to catch if you understand the basic rules.these rules are pretty simple but very vital in attracting and dating an older woman.I will try to highlight some of these keys so as to help you increase your chances of being a gigolo and getting older women to want you.

SEX:

Sex is a very important part of the relationship between a gigolo and an older woman who are attracted to each other.but sex isn't the only ingredient that makes up a relationship.most people think being a gigolo automatically means you have to become a sex tool to satisfy an older woman's sexual cravings in exchange for money.this is very wrong,sex should not be put in the fore when trying to attract an older woman.you must never let her think or feel that you are a sex tool with nothing else to offer her unless you are convinced that is all she wants from you and that is all you have to give.

CONFIDENCE:

It is very important that you appear confident and mature even if you are not,even though they are older than you,these women want to feel that you are a real man capable of 'handling' them and their issues.older women tend to be more aggressive compared to their younger counterparts,this is because they usually know what they want and what they do not want because of their years of experience.According to a 2009 survey, 45% of cougars have dated at least 5 younger men and 48% prefer guys 24-29 years old.It means that almost half the Cougars you meet not only have years of experience dating men their own age or older, they're also quite savvy with younger men.thus,you must make her feel that you know what you are doing and capable of handling yourself in a manner that is mature,decent and bold.

ONLINE DATING:

In recent years most relationship are known to begin online,dating websites have been very effective even though some people argue that the internet has done a certain amount of damage to the way relationship is perceived  however, we all agree that more people are getting into online dating each day with an alarming increase.therefore,its imperative to point at some of the mistakes young guys make when contacting older women online and below are a few:

. Hi/How are you?/Hey

These aren't wrong generally, but when that’s all you've got, you’re not going to catch much in the way of attention from the women who you are talking to. It shows that you’re unimaginative, not a good talker and if they've got a fully filled out profile it shows that you didn't read. If you can’t find anything to say that’s not just a hello then why should any time be wasted on you?

. I love your pics.

What about the pics did you like? This isn't an invitation to launch into love tale, but maybe say that she looks beautiful instead or that she looks like a fun woman. If she’s got one where she’s on a boat, talk about the boat. If she’s doing something like rock-climbing talk to her about that. Even if the pictures are clearly taken just for this site, put some detail into it otherwise it’s just a canned message.

. My number is…/My email is…

It’s strange,right? But putting your contact information into a message right away just makes you look desperate. Think about this for a second, you’re giving your number out to a complete stranger without having any real contact with them. By doing this it sends out a signal that you are one, doing this with other women as well and two, that you are not looking for anything meaningful. It’s the equivalent of scrawling your name and number on napkins before handing them out to every girl at the bar who has even remotely caught your interest.

. I want to be your gigolo.

This seems like an innocent enough statement to make, but the problem with it is that it is often something which is said right away to older women. Imagine the reaction of a woman if you went up to her after seeing her having some coffee and said “I want to be your boyfriend.” You’re giving off the same kind of vibe here. While you might very well want to be the gigolo of the older woman you are contacting, try to rephrase it in a way that’s less creepy. Tell her that you are interested in getting to know her better as that is a much more normal way to catch someone’s interest.

. How old are you?/You can’t be that old/You look good for your age

Don’t bring the age into it. Nobody likes to think of their age once they reach a certain point (and this is true of both men and women) so why would you bring up their age? While you might think saying that they couldn't be as old as their age is a compliment, it’s a backhanded one. You’re giving off the idea that their actual age is truly ancient even if they don’t look it.

. I love older women.

This is a weird one to have on this list, I’ll admit, but it does give off some strange vibes that you’re going to want to avoid. That means you’re just going after her for her age.

. I can email you my pictures.

The women who are on these website are on it in part because it provides a level of security. They don’t want to have to give away their contact information right away and by giving away their email that’s exactly what you’re doing. Have pictures on the website. You can block out your face if you’d like, but don’t say that you’re just going to send pictures later. The women don’t want to hear it unless you’re offering to email them more pictures than you already have on your profile (but still not a great thing to do in the first message).

. Tell me your fantasy.

Ugh. Not only is it cheesy, but it’s just creepy in a first message. It’s one thing if fantasies come up naturally in a conversation, but if they’re just mentioned out of nowhere it’s not something that most people would want to answer. There needs to be some build up to that question or it is like being on a date with the guy furiously palming himself under the table. Gross.

Once you have mastered each of these keys I've mentioned and begin to consciously practice them you will to experience tremendous progress not only in attracting older women but also successfully dating and having a great relationship with them.other keys you must also be conscious of include How to know if she's interested in you,What type of body language will get her attention,How long to wait before calling her once you get her number,When to text and more importantly, when NOT to text,How to ask her out,Where to go on the first date,How to create "sexual tension,When to have sex,and finally how to keep an older woman.

These are a few tips to help you improve your game and I hope you find them helpful. Watch out for subsequent post here on gigolo.com.

Peace

INTELLIGENCE-THE ULTIMATE APHRODISIAC

In my personal experience,one thing I've come to realize with the older women I've been with is that they all have a soft spot for intelligence.Women are generally attracted to men who study,think and have understanding.Talking about intelligence,as a guy you do not have to be a rocket scientist or an astronaut to get women to be attracted to you,however,i guaranty that you will not get them by being stupid either.

The vast majority of today's male are very much into the fast life,hip-hop music,partying and having a good time.these things aren't bad but such lifestyle becomes worrisome when it is all guys think about.Most guys from this generation do not even understand the reason behind setting up a government,guys go blank at the mention of the words 'stock exchange'.All they care about is having a good time and that's what life is all about as far as they understand.

As a guy reading this you might be thinking ,"well, I've got the fine looks and that's enough to get the ladies attention".True!women will notice you and perhaps want to get to know you even but you will need more than good looks to keep an older woman once you have gained her attention.These women aren't like the young girls who are mostly attracted to your looks,your car and your swag...older women desire more.These are mostly women in the working class with a very rich knowledge reserve laced with years of life's experience.To sustain a relationship with such women you must bring your A++ game and if all you have got is a handsome face and a sexy body,then it may not be enough because she has probably been with guys more handsome and more sexy than you who turned out to be complete babies,therefore,she might not want to waste her time with you unless of course if all she is after is a one night stand (ONS),friends with benefit (FWB) or, a no strings attached (NSA) relationship.

What is the smart thing to do?

Well, this might appear a surprise to many but it is very easy to overcome this problem.the way out is simply to keep a teachable spirit and be open to learning.older women know from experience that guys do not have monopoly to intelligence.they are aware that they might actually know a lot more than these guys and are always willing to teach and guide if only the guy asks the right questions that shows him as someone eager to learn and grow.Another intelligent problem that guys have with older women is knowing what to talk about.Because guys have been fed with the wicked misconception that all an older woman needs from a gigolo is sex in exchange for her money,guys mind always seem to drift towards the topic of sex and money,trying to impress these women with stories of their sexual prowess.However, today's women have grown beyond the role of baby making and sex symbols.women have gone ahead to do remarkably well in sports,politics and government,business,science and technology and of course entertainment.

The moment you realize that women are also capable and sometimes more intelligent than the males, beginning to see these women not only as sex symbols to be objectified you will find out there are so much more interesting topics to talk about with a woman besides sex.Now,sex on its own is a beautiful thing to talk about and experience with an older woman but at the same time the dangers of talking about it are so enormous.  as a guy you constantly have to watch out for pitfalls when discussing sex with an older woman.your choice of words must not be perceived as inappropriate or lacking maturity because that might send the wrong signal and make her lose interest.for example,not every woman finds the words hooters and boobies appropriate in a conversation so you might want to tone it down and seek more pleasant words in replacement.Knowing what to talk about is very important just as much as knowing when to be quiet.In the future I shall talk extensively about the intelligence in silence (when to speak and when to listen)but until then.....ciao

SEX,SEX,SEX...HOW COMPLICATED CAN IT GET?

I have heard a lot of people say it is not possible to have a relationship without sex. I've also heard a lot of people who referred to sex as the sole reason they had failed relationships,it was either they weren't getting as much as they wanted or the other partners were complaining that they did't want too much of sex in these relationships.Another group of people blame the failure of their relationships on 'whack sex' and this group of people are the reason for this write up.

 What is whack Sex???

For the purpose of clarity i would try as much as I can to keep it short and simple.whack sex refers to the wrong ways of love making.it could be as a result of so many things done poorly or so many things not done at all that made sexual experience boring.

What are the causes of whack sex?

The sole responsible factor for whack sex is lack of proper sex education with most people having to learn about sex through porn videos and websites.porn is a very beautiful thing in many ways but because of the unrealistic pictures they paint they tend to cause more harm than good to the mind set of the viewer.For example,Porn makes you believe that men love coming on women's face and every woman in porn videos loves this but in real life situation its not true,some women like it some don't and some guys love to do it while others don't.its entirely up to individual preferences.

Also,the porn industry is an industry that's dominated by men and they tend to create products tailored to suit the needs and desires of men.by using porn as a guide to learn about sex guys only become aware of how to make themselves feel good.Another thing that I have to point out here is that in the real world a lot of women aren't into anal sex,some women love it, but it is wrong to believe that everybody should accept it as a regular form of sex which porn makes us believe.

In making love to your partner there is the sheer pleasure of skin on skin which allows partners to have sex with their arms around each other and bodies pressed against each other,this is not portrayed in porn because usually its all about having sex for the camera angles and what we see as the only parts of the bodies touching are the genitals.Also,most guys are used to the unrealistic idea that a man can get a woman turned on by touching or sticking his fingers into a her pussy and boom! she is wet and ready just as they have seen in porn videos but that's not true,a man can easily get turned on by a girl reaching straight for his dick even if they had never met each other before.with women it doesn't work that way.guys must learn the importance of foreplay and after-play kissing,tit touching,nipple sucking and general licking.basically,you have to start from the top and work your way down the bottom.

As a guy you may want to find out what your partner is into before forcing it on her during sex with the assumptions that every woman likes the same thing.A lot of women do not like dirty words during sex and calling her a bitch or a slut might just land you into trouble.finally,while some women like the idea of being made to gag during a blowjob by having their hair grabbed and a dick forcibly shoved down their throats many others do not appreciate this action from their partners during sex.

How do you improve your sex game as a male to pleasure your woman?

The need to pleasure your woman can never be over emphasized.once you fail in your responsibility as a man to give her the pleasures she needs,there is a vacuum that is created automatically and she begins to looks elsewhere to fill it.Shawna Lenee, the 2 Girls Teach Sex expert in this excerpt gives great insightful knowledge that every man should have about how to pleasure a woman.here is it:

Love Making Mistake #1: Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn't

You may think that your lover is having “multiples” (or even ONE you-know-what) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises and even TELL YOU it’s happening. But is she really?
Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on “faking it”. I’m not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking it EVERY TIME but… chances are there have been a few episodes of love making where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.
When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to finish. It doesn't mean you are awful at love making; just that being a mind-blowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.
If you are pleasing your woman with the “Big O” (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You’re one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing your woman REALLY WELL. But if you’re not, it is crucial that you learn how…

Love Making Mistake #2: Not Giving Her a Variety of Love Making Experiences

A lot of guys who are new to love making – or are used to doing it with the same woman – tend to forget when it comes to pleasing your woman she wants different KINDS of sensual EXPERIENCES.
You might think that changing love making positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting IS a mixing it up. But it is not.
Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes when pleasing your woman she wants to be taken, sometimes she wants it hard, and sometimes she wants to make love.
If you are NOT talking during love making and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she CAN’T be totally fulfilled. Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in love making.
Let’s look at an example.
Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them.
This is why that when a women cheats, it is often with a “bad boy.”
However, you don’t need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in love making. Just be a bad boy yourself by giving her a light spanking, talking dirty, and giving it to her good!
Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels they read with Fabio on the cover. This is not a myth… women REALLY read this stuff!
Now, I’m not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse… but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.
Get it?
The skinny is this:
You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences… and YOU are capable of giving her each kind… but you have to mix it up!

Love Making Mistake #3: Forgetting To Be A MAN

Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL.
That’s right, we want YOU to call the shots!
As long as you are respectful, your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and switch positions without asking, and to do what YOU want!
Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate.
Sure, it’s ok to ask her if she is enjoying something… but keep it simple. Save the talk about actual love making positions she liked for AFTER you are done.
Now don’t get me wrong – you are not making her a slave here, but rather leading with authority and masculine strength.
Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think a woman is just uptight if she doesn't want to do something… when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with strength and confidence. You’ll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Love Making Mistake #4: Thinking Sex Isn't That Important To Her

If you want to know how much women LOVE sex… just think about how loudly we scream during love making! You won’t ever hear a guy screaming like that!
You might THINK that your drive is much higher than your woman’s because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But…
As hard as it is to accept, recognize that if your girl doesn't want to make love, it is NOT always because she doesn't want to.
Unfortunately, it’s probably because you just aren't getting her off.
Fortunately this is an easy fix, and in a moment we’ll talk about how to do it…

Love Making Mistake #5: Being Silent/Emotionless in Bed

You may think that it is “cheesy” or “creepy” to talk romantically in bed. (you may think its weird to talk at all in bed) However, women HATE silent, mechanical love making.
Why?
I’ll say it again: We women THRIVE on emotion.
Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT ways to give your girl STRONG EMOTIONS in bed. And strong emotions = STRONG FEMALE ORGASMS.
Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that give your girl the most pleasure. The most POWERFUL FEMALE ORGASM “BIG O” will always be triggered by our MINDS, not by our physical bodies.
Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having making love, and she will experience the most intense pleasure of her life!

Love Making Mistake #6: Trading Dinners/Flowers/etc To Get Sex From Her

Many men mistakenly think that we women aren't interested in love making (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking), and that they have to “trade something” with her to get her to want intimacy.
This is why you see so many guys trying to “get there” with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts.
While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SOME. When you have to trade something to get intimacy from your girl, realize that this is PROOF you are just not truly satisfying her in the bedroom.
When you are intimately satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for it, but she will often spontaneously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating lovemaking constantly. Just wait and see!

Love Making Mistake #7: Not Giving Her Enough “Foreplay”

If you still think of “foreplay” as the activity before love making, well then you are thinking of it WRONG!
Here’s a hint: What to please your woman… Women consider foreplay as PART of the lovemaking. NOT as a separate thing!
Here’s why:
While a man is not always capable of having a “Big O” during foreplay AND then another “Big O” during the actual lovemaking, WOMEN CAN!
Imagine if YOU could have one during foreplay… AND not lose any firmness and keep having them well into lovemaking. You’d want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?
Well your girl CAN have foreplay “O’s” AND penetration “O’s” so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!
As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as lovemaking and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the lovemaking better when you are finally inside of her.

Love Making Mistake #8: Not Lasting Long Enough

This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it. But while all guys know they need to last long… they don’t necessarily know HOW LONG that is!
Well, after talking to dozens of my girlfriends about the subject, I've discovered that we all think pretty much alike…
If you can last at least 20 minutes, most women will be SUPER happy with that!

Love Making Mistake #9: Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior

It’s no secret that we women can be a LOT moodier than you men =)
But if you’re in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time… this is often because she isn't getting what she needs in the bedroom.
FACT.
As we talked about before… while women aren't usually as sexually aggressive as men, we do love and NEED to make love just as much!
But here’s the thing… if you’re not giving her the “Big O”… then lovemaking does her no good!
Can you imagine if when you were “taking care of yourself” you could NEVER “get there”? You’d begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you’d get so frustrated by the inability to “finish” that it would just be easier to avoid it COMPLETELY!
Sooo…
If you can’t give her the “Big O” why WOULD she want to make love with you?
The answer:
She won’t.
If your girl is not wanting to make love with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her.
In the beginning, she may have tolerated it because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and lovemaking isn't satisfying for her, it is more fulfilling for her to take care of HERSELF when you’re not around. This leads to only being with you on special occasions… or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)
If you recognize any of these signs, it’s time to step up your game NOW before the drought gets even worse.
And when you do, you’ll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in bed, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis… but SHE’LL start initiating making love with YOU!
A close friend of mine who is some what of a love-making expert himself told me something that I didnt’ believe at the time… but I now KNOW to be 100% true:
IF YOU ARE GIVING HER THE BEST OF HER LIFE, SHE WON’T CARE IF YOU ARE HOMELESS LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX… AS LONG AS YOU CAN MAKE LOVE IN IT!
And hey, I’ll admit it… if a man can give it to me like that, this is probably true =)
If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting intimacy, or acting “distant” in some way, it’s time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your ability because the real culprit is inadequate love making pleasure.

Love Making Mistake #10: Not Getting Help

Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey, not a destination. Top athletes don’t all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. CEOs don’t suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep growing. And guess what… lovemaking is no different.
To be an amazing lover you can’t ever be blinded by arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new tricks or tips to get you to the next level.
If you’re serious about getting this part of your life together… and joining the 1% of all men who can REALLY rock a woman’s world in the bedroom… I’d like to invite you to check out my new groundbreaking DVD series, 2 Girls Teach Sex.
In it, you’ll discover DOZENS of secrets on how to get your woman turned on BEFORE you make love, foreplay tricks that make her BEG to have you inside of her, the little-known positions that GUARANTEE she “gets there”, how to get your girl to start initiating intimacy with you, how to give her “multiples”… and much, much more!
Best of all, you can try it RISK-FREE. Get it out there, watch the videos, and try out the techniques. If your girl isn't SCREAMING with pleasure and begging you to make love to her at all times of the day, simply pack them up and return them for a full refund, no questions asked.
Of course, I ’d be “crazy” to make an offer like that if we were at all worried about that happening. In fact, I’ll bet that once you get these DVDs out there and see how well these techniques work, we wouldn't be able to pry them out of your hands with a crowbar!
I’m this confident because I know from experience that these are the REAL secrets women want you to know =)
Click on the link below, and start using them for yourself and for her female orgasm.
There is a whole new world of excitement in love making waiting for you out there… and this is your ticket for pleasing your woman.

The entire purpose for this topic is to correct the notion that sex is about pleasing yourself as a man and hopefully getting you to begin to concentrate more on pleasing your partner.Cause that is what will keep her wanting you more.

Good luck guys.

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