DEALING WITH THE "EX-FACTOR"

The ex-factor can sometimes be a very serious problem when dating an older woman who has partial attachment to her ex.Did you just ask how possible it is for a woman to be partially attached to her ex?well,the answer to that is quite simple,when you are in a relationship with an older woman who has kids with her ex there are always some kind of attachment between them through their kids.Most guys find this difficult to deal with especially in a situation where your partner and her ex have to take the kids out and you are practically not invited for such trips.

A lot of guys allow jealousy creep in the way not because they do not trust their partners but because they only think about their needs.this may further result into arguments and fights between they and their partners.However,what these guys fail to realize is that a woman who has to go on such outing with her ex will do anything to avoid it if it were possible.In most cases they can hardly wait for these meetings to be over so they can get to find comfort in the arms of their young lovers.So as a guy in such a situation you do not want to be seen as the bad guy since your partners ex already has that well covered.

Women who are put in these situation and forced to spend time with their ex because of their kids are often very bitter about such arrangement but in most cases they are compelled to because it is the decision of the court as part of the divorce arrangement.Deep in their heart however,they loathe their ex with a passion and are filled with regrets over meeting and having anything to do with them in the first place.The best way to act in such situation is to always remain calm and understanding.there is the tendency for her to be upset before and after every meeting with her ex.Sometimes they might even get into an argument over issues concerning their kids.whatever you do in such situation even though your loyalty is to her never pass judgement on her ex. she could have been the one with the problem in the first place and she knows it.trying to take sides with her and condemning her ex shows you are bias and untruthful and she might not like that even if she doesn't tell you.so,all you should do is to be as comforting as you can be without letting your own jealousy get in the way.You don't have to lie about your true feelings though but so long as you do not act based on your hurt or your jealousy then you will never have problems.