Wednesday 8 May 2013

HOW TO COPE IN A SECRET ROMANCE


Most women who date younger men some times like to keep the relationship a secret.This could be because these women are mainly interested in experimenting and knowing how it feels to date a younger man.Some others however,may just not be comfortable being seen with their younger lover in public because of the unrealistic perception of society as what should be the standard for a relationship between a man and a woman.People tend to see older women who date younger men as desperate but do not see anything wrong with older men who date girls young enough to be their grand daughters.Though many guys find such secret romance acceptable,a great number of guys do not share this sentiment.

As a guy who is in a relationship with an older woman that prefers to keep the romance a secret you may not like it but that shouldn't stop you from enjoying your relationship and having a good time with your partner.The first thing you should have is an understanding of the situation.It is unwise to assume that your partner is cheating on you because she is not as open as you want her to be in public with your relationship.Therefore,you should rather talk to her to find out her reasons for wanting to keep the romance a secret.

Sometimes,women who keep secret romance do this because they fear that the guys they are dating may not be serious about a future with them.The message you convey with your body language and actions as a guy speaks louder to a woman than your words.She will only be comfortable with you when and if you are comfortable with yourself.Confidence plays a key role in getting her to come out of her shells.If you are a guy who gets tossed by the wind of public opinion when it comes to making decisions about your personal life she might find it very difficult to introduce you to friends and relatives as her lover.It is therefore,important that you know exactly what you want and how to go about it without giving listening ears to the voice of other people.

Have a vacation together.A trip to a different city where either one of you have people who know or care about you might just be all that she needs to loosen up.It is also important to be clear about your purpose and intentions.If you tell a woman that you want a future with her as your partner then your actions should compliment your words.Be confident enough to introduce her to your friends and family as your lover and be firm about your choice.This will help her gain confidence in you.

Women who prefer secret romance with their young lovers are most times very sensitive with their feelings and emotions far more than the women who do not care about the opinions of other people when it comes to issues regarding their personal lives.mostly,these women are often new to dating younger men and prefer to study and watch carefully before making a public declaration of love for their partners.Once she begins to see that your intentions are genuine and your feelings for her are true she will begin to take bold steps towards releasing all of herself to you.You must therefore,learn the virtue of patience and apply wisdom and maturity.

It is particularly more difficult nowadays with people sharing their relationship experience with their lovers on Facebook, Twitter and other social media network so you might feel left out of the "fun" because your partner prefers to keep your relationship a secret but do not despair.All you need is to ask yourself why you want to be in the bandwagon in the first place.If you truly care about your partner then your priority would be to make her happy and comfortable not showing off to impress other people on the internet with photographs.Most importantly,you must continue to show your partner love always because love is the greatest force to changing any situation for better.

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