Thursday 23 May 2013

HOW TO APPEAR CONFIDENT BY FAKING IT



Being confident can sometimes be misunderstood with being cocky because of their similar outward appearance but they actually differ when you take a deeper look at what confidence really means. While women are attracted to confidence in a man,they are usually turned off when they sense him as being cocky.As a man if you’re going to have any level of success with women, you’re going to have to be confident, or learn to fake it.

Women are very good at spotting confidence in a man and in fact,most women admit that it is the number one trait they find attractive in men. Traits like body posture,eye contact,speech patterns are what mostly speak about your level of confidence as a man. keeping a comfortably erect posture while looking right into a woman's eyes as you chat gives the impression that you are very confident. Also,try to keep your hands relaxed at all side or on the table maintaining a relaxed,slow and specific speech pattern while keeping the conversation focused around her other things in general.

Building confidence most times or at least learning to "fake it until you make it" can be very easy if you understand the problems that makes you to be nervous in the first place. For instance, many guys feel inferior when they go out because they meet people they think are well groomed and dress nicely than them and this could make them nervous. The solution for such a problem is to groom yourself well,take care of your nails,your haircut, mustache and beards and always dress good and above all smell nice,as this will help boost your confidence and draw the attention of the women who will find you attractive.

Guys who have successfully master the trick of faking confidence know that in most cases being a quiet listener can be a great tool. Nervous people always find themselves talking and talking about everything they know without giving the other person any chance to speak. Women generally love talking and being a good listener will help you conceal yourself and give you some level of depth and mystery that will make her want to discover you.Try to avoid smoking cigarettes before and during your meeting with her for the first time because apart from giving you smokers breathe,cigarettes contains nicotine which is a known stimulant that increases your blood pressure.Therefore,it is advisable that you have your smoke well before you plan to meet giving yourself the needed time to shower,brush your teeth and use your mouth wash to get rid of the fowl breath and also give your body adequate time to even out the nicotine and return to a more balanced state.

Although it takes time for you to master the craft of building your confidence but as you continue to practice you will see it gradually becoming your second nature and before long you will no longer need to fake it.Use your mind to build positive experiences and expectations by creating thoughts of confidence in your mind and your body will react and display that confidence.

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